4MaryH

I am 52 years old, and not until last week did I have a single ounce of self wroth!  I thought I did.  I know not to treat myself bad.  Not to be negitive about myself.  It was still hard to accept help of any kind even from my family and children. 

 Do I really need to do all the cooking, clearing of the table, the dishes all by myself to to feel SELF WORTH? 

 When someone asks if they can help cook something or help out in anyway,  Do I really need to be polite and say ”no thank you” to have SELF WORTH? 

 Do I need to reject and complment that is given to me to have SELF WORTH? 

Do I need to go without an Easte basket, a Valentine, Christmas present, a Birthday present, to have SELF WORTH?

Do I need to eat cold dinners so I can get the kids all they need before I sit down to eat, to have SELF WORTH?

Do I really have to fold all the kids clothes even though when they put them away, it looks like they have never been folded ever, to have SELF WORTH?

Do I always have to put my self last when opening a door, even when the kids are now 30, 23, 12 and 12, to have SELF WORTH?

Do I always have to have the last shower (or none) before getting ready for church to have SELF WORTH?

Do I always have to be the one to make the beds, do the Laundry, mowing, garbage, picking up toys, dusting vacuming, toilets, dishes, change the sheets, move the washer/dryer to vacume, shopping, grocery list, and have a full time job, to have SELF WORTH?

See, I didn’t know what SELF WORTH was.  Do you?  It took a bunch of ladies from my gym, Some place where none of my family goes, Something that I do just for myself, Where I am free to joke around and have fun and workout all at the same time, to let me know how much I mean to them, and they wanted to show me just that.  So one day I walk into the gym, and they are all standing around and yelling surprize!  They served yogurt, berries and homemade gronala, and gave me a gift certificate to have my hair done, and nails done.  along with a lawn orniment (Made with spoons and forks) and a pot of dafidols!  The gift that I treasured most, is that they all wrote personal notes to me, and what each one of them felt that I gave to them by just being who I am.  I have put time in a book, so I can read them daily.  That was when I found out what SELF WORTH WAS!  AND I AM KEEPING IT!!!

God Bless Everyone*****With SELF WORTH

When I said I cut out all sugar, I did not mean that I cut out fruit.  If your read further on, it was just cakes, cookies, pies, candy,etc. stuff that wasn’t nature made.  I hope this clears things up for you.  Apples are a great sugar craving stopper.  I eat a lot of fruit when I crave sweets.  Right now it is bananas.

Mary H.

Hi everyone:

First, I have been reading a lot of blogs that say they are stuck and can’t get past a certain point, or give up foods they love.  Heres a bit of advice That has helpped me totally!!!

If your at a point where you can’t loose anymore, here are a few tips–CHANGE UP YOUR EXERCISE ROUTINE!  Doing a different type of exercise keeps your muscles guessing, and confused.  Changing the routine is an easy way to do that.  Try a different instructor, and new DVD or more intense work out.  Remember, if the routine is easy for you, your muscles have become accustom to that routine.  Grab a heavier weight, do an extra set of 8, or maybe up it to 12.  therre are little things you can do to change the routine.  As far as your food intake, try just 100 calories less each day.

If you really want to know how much you poison your own body, take this test.

for 4 days only, have NO SUGAR!  no cookies, fruit bars, pies, cakes, brownies, ice cream of any kind.  no fake sugars, no sugar free stuff, no protien bars, health food bars. candy, milkshakes,  *Milk and fruit have sugar in them, but they are allowed.  You will find that after about 3 days, your body will be going through MUD all day long.  Until the sugar is out of your system you will feel like you have no energy, but when it is out of your system, your energy level sky rockets.  I have done this, and I no longer crave the sweets, because My first thought is how toxin it really is for my body, and I don’t want to do that to myself again.  If I want something sweet, I grab a banana because it is soooo sweet.  I love it.  Try it and let me know what you think?

have a great day everyone

Thats right, I gave up sweets!!!  NO–candy, cakes, cookies, pies, bars of any kind, sweet breads, rolls, danishes, gave it all up!  What a DETOX I went through.  By the third day, I was walking through MUD!  I had no energy at all.  It was really ugly,  almost as bad as when I quit smoking 18 years ago!!  But it was the best thing I have every done for myself.  I no longer crave chocolate, and it really doesn’t bother me to see it sit there anymore.  I just have no desisre to have anything.  I think because if I really felt that bad after day 3, I really didn’t want that stuff in my body anymore,  It really isn’t worth it.  It has helpped that at our GYM we are in a challenge, and so far, I am ahead, and also that it is the first time that I have given something up for Lent.  So I had really good reasons for giving up the sugar in my life.  Try it for four days, and tell me how you feel afterwards.  Would love to hear from you on it.  Have a wonderful day, and I will talk again someday.

Love Mary

Good Morning to me.  You had a really good day yesterday.  I was proud of you.  Your children gave you a hard time about chores and homework, but you stuck it out, and in the end, they were the ones who had the stress and not you.  Good Job.  Hard one, but a good one.  When you stepped on the scales this morning, and you found yourself down a pound and a half,  You felt really good about making sure you worked out last night when you could have easily just say it was the weather!  Your a die hard when it comes to exercise.  Be proud of that.   Keep up the work your doing, and you will see that it will pay off in the long run.  Sometimes you just seem to forget that.  You focus more in the moment, and not really look at the big picture,  So make sure you look at the big picture at least once a day.  Don’t get so lost in the day, that you are frustrated and tired out.  I will always be here for you, to let you know the truth about what is going on in your life.  Great family time by the way!!  God Bless Me. Love Mary

February   , 2010

Hello me,  Thank you for taking the time to talk with me.  I have decided to journal with me, for I have found I hold to many things inside and soon I just seem to fade away, and my focus is no long on me.  I truly have the Lord to thank and I do give THANKS, for the many blessings each and every day you so freely give to me.  I must remind myself daily that I am important, just as important as any other family member!  Infact, this is the order in which it should take ***  My Lord, Myself, My Husband, My Children, My Grandchildren, My Friends, My Neighbors, My Church Family, and All Others that cross my path.  If I look at it, why would I put anyone other than the Lord ahead of myself.  It tells me, My, My, MY, MY etc.  It really doesn’t make since any other way.  I will let you know how it goes today.  Thanks again.